Dating a Conservative Woman - Tips and Advice

Despite an increasingly permissive society, there are men and women who like to stick to traditional notions about love and family. Indeed some women find more advantages in following traditional values over radically feminist ones. So if you are seeing a woman who is rather conservative in her attitudes, here are a few tips to help you along.

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When and where

If you have started dating a traditional woman, the first thing to understand is that you will have to plan your dates carefully. While an average woman would not mind meeting you at ten at night in a bar or a nightclub, the same proposal would meet with a stony silence when put to this woman. Instead ask your girl a couple of days ahead if she would like to go out with you so that she can let her family know or do whatever else she needs to before going on a date. For all you know she may be living with her parents and need to get back home before a certain hour. More importantly the venue should be one where she is comfortable – the classic movie and dinner routine should do just fine – other options could be an evening at a musical concert or a day at the museum. However make sure that the concert does not run till late at night; likewise if you are going to the movie or theater, see that it is not playing an adult comedy or anything similarly risqué.  As far as possible plan your date in a way that she can get back home before it is late into the night.

Watch your manners

Small gestures of attentiveness which are simply endearing for a more liberated woman would mean a lot more to those who are of a traditional bent of mind. So be ready to hold the door open for her, pick her purse when it falls down or fetch her coat when you ready to leave the café. These acts not only make you appear well-mannered and a gentleman but to her these are the very limited means by which you can show that she is special to you. Since you may not be allowed to kiss her or engage in other acts of intimacy, she is more likely to look towards these gestures for a sign of your attention and devotion.

Be prepared for cultural differences

If your date is a conservative woman, chances are that she belongs to a different culture, faith or ethnicity. So when conversing or discussing things, be prepared for attitudes and views which may not match with yours. It is quite likely her values are traditional and she has fixed views on what is and is not ‘proper’ behavior in life and love. Among the topics which present the greatest potential for differences are politics, religion and sexuality. Avoid discussing these if you are more interested in just hanging out with her for now. If you feel you would like to get serious about her, there will be a time later to know her take on such issues. Rather ask her about her work or college if she is studying. Invite her to tell you about her friends or describe the best vacation she took. You could also chat about favorite films, actors and authors if you want to stick to something safe and yet interesting. Avoid asking too many questions about her culture or background on the very first date. Actually this could be a sticky point since it could be a source of pride or consternation for her. The best thing for you to do would be to take your cue from your partner. Make a general, positive remark about her culture and then see how she responds – if she is happy and wants to talk about it, you can ask her a few more questions; on the other hand if she seems to clam up, go on to talking about other things. In any case, think carefully before you say anything since cultural and religious differences could be a sensitive issue here.

Presence of her family

When dating a conservative woman, you may have to contend with the overweening presence of her family in your personal life. When and where she goes out with you may depend to a large extent on her family’s advice. And it goes without saying that you cannot end up at her place for a nightcap if she is living with her family. Again she may be at her family’s beck and call and may even have to reschedule a date with you in order to cater to a family emergency. All these situations could be very trying to a guy who is just trying to find a way to spend time with the woman he loves.

Above all, she may not be ready to introduce you to her family even when things may be going alright for the two of you. Don’t push for such a meeting – leave it to her to decide when and if at all a meeting with the parents would be a good idea. After all she knows her family best and is ideally placed to know when would it be the right time to make introductions all around.

Have patience

Being a conservative woman, your date will probably hold strict views about intimacy and sex. In all likelihood she will be opposed to making love before marriage; so if you are looking for a relationship that involves sex, then you may have to wait quite a while – till marriage or at least till she is assured enough in her love for you. It would be a mistake to pressurize her about sex or even to make sexual advances. At the same time though, your needs are valid too and if you feel that you are not feeling fulfilled in this relationship, you could consider looking for another partner instead.

Finally dating a woman with traditional values has its own challenges as well as pleasures. While you are sure to gain a partner with strong family and spiritual values, it could also require you to take things with added consideration and patience.